If You’re Going To Hold Onto Something That’s Your Dreams, Not People

If you are going to hold onto something, let it be your dreams and not people. Say no to that insane attachment that cuts wings and combines love with blackmail. Be brave and let go of what is out of date, what does not work to meet the needs of your heart, where our desires are inscribed, those for which new trains continue to pass every day.

Honoré de Balzac used to say that when faced with a personal crisis, the heart breaks or hardens. All of us, in some way, have lived those moments of personal complexity, in which, having to give up something or someone and perceive ourselves almost on the edge of the abyss, we suddenly become fully aware of ourselves and our true needs.

It is curious to think how, somehow , we are all almost forced to “die” several times and then be reborn. Crises and changes always cause us fear, because they predispose us to have to detach ourselves from many things in order to cancel one stage of our lives and start others with a well-hardened heart.

In each change and in each one of those cycles that we begin, a purpose must always be inscribed, a dream to achieve in order to fulfill ourselves a little more. We invite you to reflect on it.

The need to hold on to your dreams and purposes

If there is a book that defends above all the need to cling to our dreams and be able to fight for them, it is “The Last Lesson” by Randy Pausch. Actually, it is an autobiographical work by the author himself, a famous computer science professor who collaborated with the Disney factory, and who wrote this book was once diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer.

With “The Last Lesson” he wanted to give a kind of intellectual testament to convey to readers an essential need: to achieve our childhood dreams. Those that, somehow, we come to bury with our adult obligations and with that need to cling to things or people that instead of allowing us to grow, “dwarf” us.

The pages of Professor Paush’s book exude an inspiring and almost magical vitality, transmitted in turn by someone who, despite assuming his own end, is capable of giving us strategies with which to build those personal stairs that will allow us to achieve our dreams. . They would be the following.

How to achieve your childhood dreams

The great goals that we could have as children are now seen as tremendous ingenuity. Now, it is very possible that behind this reasoning, in reality, there is fear.

• The size of those childhood dreams does not matter, what matters your attitude towards them. Hence, Randy Pausch spoke of the need to have a family, of parents who will always act as facilitators and not as vetoors of dreams.

• Stop holding on to what others think about your dreams or wishes. They are not you, they do not live in your mind nor do their bodies beat with your heart. Listen to your inner voice and keep thinking like a child whose innocence was never stolen: trust, explore, dream …

• The third piece of advice that he left us in his book “The Last Lesson” is the need to be patient and humble. Achieving dreams depends at the end of 10% inspiration and 90% perspiration. That is, we must fight for what we want.