I Am Not In This World To Meet The Expectations Of Others
The phrase that begins with “We are from whom …” and ends in an affectionate way has become fashionable; but who are we really from? Do we have to belong to someone? No, we are in this world to “be of ourselves” and to be able to be with the rest: the only expectations that I have to fulfill are those that I set for myself, not those that others impose on me.
It is very nice to think that you are so close to someone that you can exclaim that something about you belongs to them, but nothing could be further from the truth.
And it is that sometimes you have to be a little selfish and remember that the wishes and goals that we set ourselves start from the inner essence. That is why we must take care of the self-esteem that creates illusions and strengthen the hope of fulfilling them.
First, we need our own expectations
Most of the people work to fulfill objectives imposed by others, dedicate part of their time to activities that they do not want to do or are forced to lead a certain lifestyle to continue.
Given that there are circumstances that cannot be avoided, we need our own expectations that make us have the certainty that we can be happy with what we have. At the end of the day, if we go back with the help of memory to the first years of our adulthood, we will all find in it different focuses that we would like to reach one day and others that we have already reached.
Those closest to us will be able to give us their opinion, support us and, of course, advise us if we give them that power. However, I can only have the last word: I decide what I want to do with the time I have in my hands and I set myself on a path that I consider appropriate . Something that no one can choose for me.
Then we must defend those expectations
After creating expectations, it is necessary that we shape them and fight to defend them: learning to define well what we want will help us to direct our actions towards it well. Thus, it is good to understand that, like illusions and dreams, the goals we set for ourselves are part of the gasoline that propels us in a specific direction.
Defending the expectations that we have set for ourselves makes us closer to the possible than the impossible, which is why it encourages us to continue growing as we surpass ourselves time and time again. We have to start from the basis that each of us can achieve what we have proposed, without letting ourselves be defeated by those who do not see us capable.
The word of others can also give light
The advice of others can always be useful and on many occasions they represent the light we need, since blindness sometimes takes over the steps we want to take.
For this reason, it is beneficial to listen, take into account the word of the one who loves us with kindness and see if it fits into our thinking of events. They may give us the answer or they may activate it for us to discover.
It is not bad for others to know the expectations we have set for ourselves, nor is it bad for us to share them with them. However, the reasonable thing is to not stop assuming that each one owns theirs: neither has anyone in the world come to fulfill yours, nor are you here to do the same with those of the rest.
