Breathe And Fear Not, Because What Is True … Endures

True love is born from the clash between two similar souls that meet and is strengthened thanks to two mature and conscious minds that respect each other, that want each other free but that choose to walk together. So trust and do not fear, do not plant your heart with fears and concerns because what is authentic endures, what is beautiful is cared for and does not have to hurt.

We know that today  many do not finish believing in this idea of ​​love due to the disappointments they have suffered when they have turned it around,  but what they do not trust the least is the following word: “durability”. How to do it? We live in the era of planned obsolescence, almost everything has an expiration date. In turn, philosophical currents such as that of Zygmunt Bauman, father of liquid modernity or that of the always defiant Slavoj Zizek, bringing us his acid social disenchantment, draw us a reality where nothing lasts, where everything that transcends has little positive.

Thus, in this present where most of us connect with social discontent and where changes are always the order of the day … How can we trust that there are still truly lasting dimensions? How to believe in strong feelings, in eternal loves, in relationships that never give up?

Sir Francis Bacon said that people are willing to believe what we would like to be true. Therefore, to build something true, a satisfactory, happy and lasting relationship we need not only to trust in love, but to believe in it, investing efforts, time and good care in that special person, in that loved one. Because what you love, you take care of, and what you take care of, has a better chance of lasting.

True love in times of crisis and neuroscience

Love in times of crisis is not easy. It is not when there are economic difficulties, when our  millennials , for example, lack the means and resources to become independent, to create a firm project for a couple that has reasonable expectations for the future. Nor is it easy for someone affected by unemployment plunges into a period of crisis, in a stage of uncertainties and anguish that impact on their own self-concept, which directly attacks their life project and affects their own personal development. Dimensions that affect that nuanced canvas that is a relationship.

True love is one that has learned to walk the tightrope with ease. Because life is not easy, we know it, but the love of the good, that of 24 carats and 10 hardness, knows how to be there maintaining the balance despite the attacks, despite the external crises and especially the internal ones. Those where one ends up doubting oneself, where hopes, convictions are dislodged and self-esteem is diluted …

The good couple, the conscientious lover and exceptional person  know well how to be our center, like our star Sirius, the brightest in the entire night sky, the one that guides us to return home …

Because, let’s face it, we don’t really care too much about neuroscience explaining to us that loving is the simple result of three ingredients: dopamine, oxytocin, and norepinephrine. We do not care because the neurobiological reality does not tarnish the magic one iota and even less the know-how.

True love: an unexpected luck that must be taken care of

Stephen Hawking once said that love is much more complicated than physics, and that sometimes, we spend so much time looking at the sky that we forget that the most precious thing is on Earth. Be that as it may, sometimes we do it, we neglect it even knowing that the feeling is authentic and that it is the chosen person, but the reason why we behave like this is complex, varied and for moments incomprehensible to reason.

Love is strange, no doubt, but as Haruki Murakami said in “Blind Willow, Sleeping Woman” , something like this only happens rarely. Those in which we find someone to whom we can convey our state of mind with accuracy, someone with whom it is possible to communicate perfectly … And that is an unexpected luck that not everyone gets to enjoy and not always, of course.

So if this happens and we experience that wonderful coincidence … why not get it right? Why not put our feet on the ground, our heart in the center and our mind in that level where maturity and responsibility vibrate?

Without a doubt it is worth it, because whoever saw us, when we were invisible to the rest, deserves everything. Because whoever prefers you without needing you will take care of you as you deserve, over a low heat, with a burning flame and patiently, letting time and happiness make that love something lasting.