7 Tips To Face Difficult Times

Helpful tips are a valuable gift, most valuable in tough times. Who has not gone through one of those episodes in which the exit is so hidden that it does not seem to exist? In situations like this it is inevitable that we end up attending to each other and loading ourselves with an increasingly intrusive pessimism. That’s when good advice can make a difference.

No matter how smart and savvy you are, there will always be some point along the way where you don’t know where to go. Precisely, to find a little light in those dark moments, there are 7 tips that will help you.

1. Facing difficult times: accept and do not resist

We tend to think that if things don’t happen the way we want, it’s because everything is going wrong. We have a hard time accepting reality as it is and reconciling it with our expectations. Something that finally only causes us suffering.

Difficult times come because it is necessary that it be so. The way out is to try to escape from them, but quite the opposite: to accept them. With bad times come new learning, both external and internal; they are unbeatable occasions to evolve. The more you resist accepting difficulties, the further you will be from solving them.

2. Do not feel or behave like a victim

The temptation to victimize ourselves is always there, just around the corner. It is a very human attitude, but at the same time very harmful. What is the use of feeling sorry for yourself, if in the end all you do is distance yourself from the moment when it will be your turn to take responsibility for what happens in your life?

In everything that happens to us we have a share of responsibility. No problem falls from the sky just because. We have done something, or not done, to get to that situation. Victimizing ourselves is a way of enhancing helplessness, of persisting in the message that we cannot do anything so that the negative does not happen again.

3. Search within yourself

When we are full of problems, it is usual for us to turn our gaze outward. We try to act on the external, with the illusion or the intention to change it and thus get out of difficulties. However, this attitude is not very productive, mainly because reality is made up of many forces that are beyond our control.

In difficult times we must primarily look within. It is we who must change, as this will be reflected, sooner or later, in a change in external circumstances.

4. Thank the universe and life

This is a wonderful key to avoid any moment of sadness or dejection. Just close your eyes, take a deep breath and say “Thank you.” Trust in the deep wisdom of life. If you are going through a difficult trance it is because you need it.

This little ritual has almost magical effects. Just by thanking out loud, you immediately put yourself in a different emotional state. It does not matter if in principle that gratitude does not come from your heart; You will see that, over time, that “Thank you” is going to be filled with content.

5. Remember that everything changes

Remember those wise words that can be applied to any situation: “This too will pass.” Everything in the universe is dynamic and constantly changing. When we go through a difficult or very happy situation, we always imagine that it will last forever. But it’s not like that.

Sometimes you just have to wait a bit and let things get back on track.  Thinking in parallel and dedicating yourself to other activities, solutions and answers will begin to emerge. Other times you must act and then let your actions reap their own rewards. Trust.

6. Seek a new perspective

Faced with a difficulty, you can adopt different perspectives. You can see it as a catastrophe, only comparable to a tsunami. You can take it as an obstacle that must be avoided, as a barrier that you must break or as a test of how hard life is.

But you can also choose to see in that difficulty a challenge to your growth,  an opportunity to learn more about yourself or to develop your patience. You are the architect of your own thoughts and your way of looking at the world. It is up to you how you want to position yourself in the face of a problem or a cluster of them.

7. Accept that anything is possible

In difficult times pessimism seems to have a preferential invitation.  You even think that keeping a hope alive can be the source of new disappointments. It is important that you think about the difference between hoping for the best and creating an illusion. The one leads you to open yourself to the possibility that events may occur in your favor. The other thing is to feed an obsessive fantasy, without major bases.

Never forget that there are miracles every day. Nor that you are a human being capable of overcoming all kinds of adversity. You also carry within you the possibility of creating the unexpected. Sometimes, it is those great difficulties in life that lead us to rise above ourselves and show us that we can continue to grow at any age.